anyone else have valentines day blues?

[brokendj23]

My girlfriend dumped me a few weeks ago and this will be my first valentine's day alone in 4 years...Watching current FS isnt helping any with John and Aeryn back together again...hmmm maybe it would help if nichole was kidnapped by scarrans

[dzelika]

i am sorry brokendj23. that sucks. but you know what - it's probably for the best. she was obviously not good enough for you. you'll see it yourself when you fall in love again with the right person.

[chri-baby]

your not alone, come by FMD on V day and you'll see how not alone you are!
were here for you mate!

[JadedLegend3]

Yeah, it will suck. And to think my married friend is all pissed off because her husband is working on St. Valentine's day. So she's announced she's coming over here. Like I want to deal with a semi-happy pregnant, married, owns her own house, woman on St. Valentine's day! :g2f:



Jacqui :love:

[SweetpeaAeryn]

Wow, that was like one of the creepiest things ever... My name is Nichole... and my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years.... (in a couple of weeks...)

I hope it's not a sign or anything....

But anyway,
Hon, no matter what we're always here for ya. Even if you just need to vent or need some great Scaper Lovin :hug: .

[fiona-maria]

I am sorry, brokendj.

I have not had a boyfriend for almost 9 years. I sit there and watch John and Aeryn and cry with romantic longing.*smile*

But, I also know, this is just how it is at the moment. This is a hiatus. Things will change. This is NOT forever.

Four years is a long time. The best thing you can do is, just be yourself. Live your life. Take joy in the things you love to do for yourself.

And know that the Scaper community is available and willing to support you.

Fiona

[DragonLady]

brokendj23 I'm sorry. I always spend St. Valentine's Day alone in my hause. Why? Because I don't want to see all these happy couples on the streets. I'm alone and I'm sure I will be alone 4ever. Why? I just think so. You should be brave enough and I think that You will find a person good enough 4 You.

[VBKatLou]

brokendj23 - buy yourself something nice and spend the day pampering yourself and doing whatever you want to do. It won't be bad, I promise.

[TajaKayScaper]

I hear ya on the blues, my friend! I'm sorry about your situation:(
John and Aeryn always help----don't feel bad if you need to have a good cry:(:)
:hug: from me to you!

[Sirona]

{{{{ brokendj23}}}

"It is better to be happy and on your own, then to be miserable and be with someone. " That little piece got me through sheer dren.

Define or redefine your wants and needs and finally don't settle for second best.

[koti]

Hey brokendj23
Every V Day is a doom's day for me too.
When I see all those happy couples on the streets, uugh it drives me crazy.
But, life goes on
Keep rolling amigo, we are here for you

[TheBladeRoden]

Aye, but it's my 20th Valentine's Day without someone! *you can tell by my sexually frustrated post history* Let us all be alone together!

[Frellster]

I'm always alone on Valentine's day. I called my boyfriend, and said, as a point of conversation "hint hint" that Valentine's day was coming up. He said that it was horrible commercialism and he hasn't even decided what sort of relationship he wants with me yet. OK, wev'e spent several weekends together. Him spending the night; sex, cuddling, intimate conversations - before that we knew eachother as aquaintences and then friends for eight years - and he doesn't know if he considers me a girlfriend! What the frell!!? Its not like I want a diamond for Valentine's day. A tulip or rose and some indication that I'm important to him would be nice.

[Maveric]

Originally posted by TheBladeRoden
Aye, but it's my 20th Valentine's Day without someone! *you can tell by my sexually frustrated post history* Let us all be alone together!

single by choice (women are too much trouble and cost money) ;) and it's my birthday 2/14/74

[Frellster]

OK, whoa my last post seems a bit whiny. Not gonna be that way. I just hate it that I've loved so many people and not a one of them has loved me back.

[Clarsax]

I'm sorry brokendj23. But you won't be alone. We're all here for you.
:hug:

[brokendj23]

thanks for the support guys! seems like ever since I found FMD, I've turned to you guys for everything, and can always count on your kind words to cheer me up...or at least make me crack a smile!

-Jay

[Antrobus]

and it's my birthday 2/14/74

Happy Birthday!:bday:

As for Valentine's Day, not everyone can or will have a "mate" on 2/14/04. That's just how it is. And those of us that don't have to remember that there's more to life than a relationship.

So, treat yourself to something special and remember that you can always love yourself on Valentine's Day! (And in case anyone's mind is in the gutter, I don't mean it in that way!;) )

[chri-baby]

People were mistaking me for for Billy Holiday all day today!
:kitty:

[Col.Batguano]

I hate the Holiday.

brokendj23
your not alone in your situation
I’m 33 and single

It doesn’t bother me until others start asking me about my plans,

today an acquaintance actually was puzzled that I (a single man) would be out and about in public on Valentines, as if I had nothing to do because I’m single.
another woman started preaching to me on how I should just love my self, so I just popped off at her with, “why do you think I ware glasses.
of course the one liner went over her head.

even when I was in a relationship the Holiday made me cringe,
especially when the dirty old house wives would give me the, nudge nudge - wink wink - say no more attitude,
there is nothing more of a turn on like grandma speculating about your sex life because of the holiday.


Best to try and ignore the Day

[Nicola]

Originally posted by chri-baby
People were mistaking me for for Billy Holiday all day today!
:kitty:

:rollin:

Well at least you've kept your sense of humour!

[chri-baby]

Originally posted by Nicola
:rollin:

Well at least you've kept your sense of humour!

Nicola, don't worry I'm not gonna lose my sense of humour. Its all I got left! ;)

[The Keeper]

"SINGLE'S AWARENESS DAY"



...otherwise known as St Valentine's Day...


...enough said...

[Nicola]

Originally posted by chri-baby
Nicola, don't worry I'm not gonna lose my sense of humour. Its all I got left! ;)

Just a question.... how big a deal is St. Valentines Day in Kuwait anyway?

I know it is a problem in India, but that has to do with Hindu nationalist groups.

Considering it is a catholic inspired holiday, I would find it really interesting if you could share with me how it is perceived in Kuwait.

[ChibiToaster]

I almost perfer the numbness of being with a SO for a long time than the feelings of falling in love again and not knowing what to do about it.

[SweetpeaAeryn]

I just have to say, ChibiToaster, that you have a really cute avatar!!! Is there more art like it? Where can I find it?

(Sorry to go OT, please forgive me? )

[cullyn80]

attached is a song by Gaelic Storm entitled born to be a bachelor. good match to this thread.

for more info on the band visit www.gaelicstorm.com

[cullyn80]

Well that didn't work the file is at my ftp site
ftp://65.171.4.134
username is savefarscape
password is budong

[Spedoinkel]

Thanks for the music...five minute wait. Oh well.

Personally I've been only for every on of my 21 V days.
I went to a party on friday. Freinds from school having birthdays, and lots of other people. You know how it is. I had a great time for the most of it. but latter there were some poeple making out with each other. Nothing really serious just the I bored and drunk and there is another person around type of thing I gennerally don't go for. Mostly because It just reminds me of what I don't have.

The thing kinda went downhill from there.

the guy i was gonna crash with left without me and I had to walk for forty minutes back to my car and have the half hour drive home.

But I'm not bitter.

[Zantar]

Originally posted by Frellster
I'm always alone on Valentine's day. I called my boyfriend, and said, as a point of conversation "hint hint" that Valentine's day was coming up. He said that it was horrible commercialism and he hasn't even decided what sort of relationship he wants with me yet. OK, wev'e spent several weekends together. Him spending the night; sex, cuddling, intimate conversations - before that we knew eachother as aquaintences and then friends for eight years - and he doesn't know if he considers me a girlfriend! What the frell!!? Its not like I want a diamond for Valentine's day. A tulip or rose and some indication that I'm important to him would be nice.

Frellster, sorry that you had that happen to you. While i do agree that valentines day is a bit commercialized, and in some ways bullshit that was very rude for your boyfriend to say. It wouldnt have been to much trouble for him to just have sacrificed a bit to give you a good day. I dont really know him to well of course, so i dont want to jump to conclusions. However, if this is an indication of his attitude towards you maybe that isnt someone you should be with. From your posts i do get the feeling you are a bit of a romantic (once again very little data here so sorry if jumping to concllusions), and this guy just doesnt seem like the type to fit with a romantic. If you want/need to talk/rant/bitch about this in more detail you could pm me.

brokendj23: i know how you feel. Ive always hated valentines day. even when i HAD a girlfriend she was gone both valentines day we were together. and all the valentines before that i was alone. Now i just dont let it bother me though. Sure i dislike the holiday but when i see a happy couple i just think "good for them i hope it lasts". One day, perhaps, ill find a girl i can be happy with again. Till that day im not gonna go looking, and im certainly not going to feel jealous of the happiness of others. Hope that helps.