I've got good maybe bad news

[Third EYe]

I'm neither an optimist or a pessimist.

My wife was in hospital a few weeks ago, with what they thought was pneumonia, then they said it wasn't, but they treated it like it was and they never said or determined what really was ailing her. She has asthma, so it was worst, so I'm told. I have no way of knowing how bad it was for her, I've always breathed fine. I know she was scared so it scared me.

They gave her all kinds of drugs, I don't even know them all, but I do know that some can be dangerous, in certain circumstances. Which is where there may be some possible bad news.

She's fine now, her breathing anyway is fine. We actually walked over a mile yesterday to go fishing. She can rarely do that.

The good news is that we just realized she is pregnant. Yup, I might be someone's dad soon!!! This is also the bad news, because of the drugs she was given, the child may be damaged somehow. She doesn't know what to think. Neither do I. The doctors never asked her if she could be pregnant, they just gave her drugs.

She saw her primary care physician (did I just use such a term?) and was told that there a good chance that the baby will be other than perfect. My wife also complained of cramping, the doctor said this is not good either and is going to scheduel an ultra sound for later this week, to determin where the baby is located, hopefully in the right place.

For the first time in my life, I get to know what it feels like to find out your wife is pregnant!!! It was a great feeling!!! Then realize that there may be some complications. I know this type of thing happens all the time. I just don't like it.

I'd like to be angry, but where do I direct the anger?

I guess all I can do is pray and wait.

[Lord Loser]

Good and bad to hear, just know this, the Fourth EYe will be in my thoughts, and I wish you the best outcome possible.

[Jeff O'Connor]

Hmm... I don't know. I have asthma... I'm not entirely sure if the specific drugs will have too much impact.

Either way... go Third EYe!

[AgentSun]

i don't have answers as to why things like this happen, but i can say that when the doctor says there is a "chance" of the situation not being perfect, that also means there is a chance that it will. life is very much like a door that swings both ways. it's constantly swinging, sometimes to let you pass through safely and sometimes it whacks you in the face. i don't have answers, but i really do think that you and your wife can get through this happily, and that you will be able to support each other through whatever difficult swings life puts you through.

meanwhile, you should probably stock up on ben and jerry's. and random food that she hates. for some reason, she'll probably want to eat food she usually hates.

[who45]

Congrats!!!! I will be keeping baby and all of you in my prayers. :hug:

[BrowderChick]

Im sending out a :hug: for you guys....

[kechara420]

(((Third EYe, wife and Little Eye))) You all will be in my thoughts and prayers. I sincerely hope that everything is fine, and that the little bambino is well. We're all here if you need us. :hugz:

[Judith]

Congratulations. I hope the baby is well. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

[Third EYe]

Thank You everyone!

levaquin is the drug that has my wife's doctor worried. I've read some on it in the past few minutes. I didn't find anything all that terrible, there isn't all that much known yet really. Not good, not bad.

AgentSun you are correct, that's essentially what I told my wife. I beleive it too. It's the waiting to find out that's worse than anything else I think.

[grinner]

congratulations Mr. Eye... and I will be praying for you, your wife and the little one that everything will be alright.

[faustus]

good luck mate and congratulations

[Antrobus]

Hope all will be well.

Asthma is very unpleasant. Not because of pain, but because of the feeling of not being able to breathe in any air - which really isn't just a feeling - it's real.

I was a severe asthmatic as a child and the state of not being able to breath makes one feel like a trapped animal. It can really be a terryfying experience.

[harveywhispers]

First, I would like to extend my congratulations to both of you!

Secondly, I want to let both of you know that you are in my thoughts!

[Kathleen]

I was diagnosed with adult onset asthma, and I can completely understand the fear of not being able to breathe. During my pregnancy, I was on several different medications to help control my asthma. One of those meds was levaquin. I was also on decadron. Both of these were explained to me by my physician as being steroids to help keep my bronchial tubes open, thus lessening the effects of an asthma attack. Don't be surprised that as your wife gets further along in her pregnancy, she will begin to have more difficulty with her breathing. It's natural, and I wouldn't be too concerned about it. As long as her physician maintains her as a "high-risk" patient due to her problems with asthma, and keeps a close eye on her medication, she should be fine.

Oh, and my son did not experience any difficulties at birth or after due to the medications I was on. So keep your chin up, know we're thinking of all of you, praying for you and sending all the best vibes we can muster!!!! :D

:hug:

[VBKatLou]

I'm not good at waiting patiently either, but sometimes that's all you can do. In the meantime, congratulations to you and your wife, and you'll both, I mean all, :) be in my thoughts.

[janey_13]

My thoughts and prayers for you and your wife :hugz:

[arthurfrdent]

ok, dude. firstly CONGRATULATIONS! The best way I can explain asthma to a non-asthmatic is... get a corslet a couple sizes too small. put it on and EXHALE. Have someone else cinch you up... now... try and breathe. another one is to have a few people sit on your chest... then do something strenuous.

SOOOO...what's the upshot. The heavy duty stuff they're giving your wife suggest that she had something more than bronchitis, but not pneumonia [which is caused by a specific bacteria] so if she has cleared up a bit, take a look around the house and see if there are things that are setting her asthma off. Sometimes asthma triggers are from overall allergy load being too high, sometimes it's a specific thing that triggers it. There is still a debate in many circles about what asthma is and if it's allergy related and to what. Safe to say though that there are a lot of AIRBORNE causes right off the bat. Do you have pets? Older carpeting? Are they doing new construction in your area? Do you leave your windows open at night? A big one! did you just turn on your swamp cooler? [That was always a big one for me] An easy way to tell is to take yourselves out to a nice weekend at the Glenwood hotsprings... change of pace and stuff. Now if you get home and she has an attack, BINGO, it's something airborne IN YOUR HOME. Those sorts of things can be changed or mitigated. HEPA air cleaners in your bedroom. Refridgerated Air Conditioning instead of evaporative, and on and etc.

The most important thing here is to be open minded about finding what is going on and making a change. The first thing many people say is 'I've never been had asthma/been allergic before...' Yeah? and that means that nothing changes? If she has had asthma her whole life, she may already have a good handle on this.

BUT and this is another biggie, everything changes for a woman who is pregnant. And that may be totally different for her. What was well controlled asthma before might be out of control now. You may have had 10 cats before and suddenly petting one sets her off. Be observant, sometimes it takes a third party to see something, because you don't necessarily see something yourself...

best of luck, for the 3 of youse...

David AFD

[UTChick]

Congratulations on the good news!! You'll be in our prayers. Yes, waiting is the worst - not being able to have a good action plan is frustrating. Good Luck - looks like there is good advice in these posts. Pregnancy does change everything. All things swell - including nasal passages, etc. That is probably a major contributor to her current problem. Hopefully, a balance can be found. You sound like a great husband - caring & supportive - your wife will appreciate that!!!

[Col. Kathryn O'Neill]

congrats, good luck and will keep you, your wife and the child she now carries within her in my thoughts and prayers ;) :hug:

[fermicat]

Third EYe, I wish you and your wife all the best and will hope for a good outcome.

[trinamick]

Congrats on the good news, and as for the possibly not so good news, we'll keep your family in our prayers. :hug: A life is a miracle, no matter how it turns out, but here's hoping for a healthy and happy pregnancy!

[Clarsax]

Congradulations! I will keep your family in my prayers, that all will go well. :hug:

[trubador]

More scaper thoughts & prayers, 3rd:eye:
Congrats on the newbie-to-be.
Congrats on your Mrs. getting better.
And have faith that all will work out all right for the munchkin on the way.

[RedKarma]

Best wishes to you, Mrs. Third Eye and child. You're all in our thoughts.

[Jellyfish]

Congratulations and good luck third eye I am sure it will work out well. No doubt there will be ups and downs in the months ahead but things have got a habit of working out well in the end!!

[Zantar]

I cannot answer why these things happen. But i do wish you the best. Things do have teh tendency to work out. I would reccomend the ulitimate therapy of laughing right now...not to diminish what is going on. But a good comedy can really take your mind off things, if even for a momment.

[Third EYe]

Thanks again everyone.

I now can put to rest some worries, at least some immediate ones. The doctor thought that it was possible that the baby was not attached in the right place. ( I thought anywhere in the Americas was OK, but I guess she wanted a more specific spot) They did an ultrasound and found the little critter. Apparently, unlike his/her dad, the baby is where it is supposed to be.

There has also been some reassurance about the drugs, there is always some risk, but in this case the risk is minimal. My wife's spirits have been lifted and this puts me at ease.

Thanks for the prayers all.

[who45]

That's good news! Keep us posted. :)

[trinamick]

Great news. Thanks for the update.

[trubador]

:applaud: Yeah... good news!

[stellar]

Congrats and lean towards optimism. As a soon to be dad myself (Sept), I can tell you that for the first trimester you will be nervous as hell. Some cramping and even some light spotting is not the end of the world, just remember to keep in touch with your doctor and keep her on pre-natal vitamins if she can tolerate it.

...And both of your lives will be easier if you check these out: http://www.preggiepop.com/preg/

Believe me... they work.

Thoughts and prayers with the fourth eye. Maybe one day he/she'll grow up to get into political arguements with stellarina :).

[Third EYe]

I'm gonna order some of those right now. I may get some for my wife too.

[stellar]

I'm actually running out. I bought 10 bags of 7 and she's down to two bags. I'll get a couple more - they say they're good for labor too.

I've never had one so I can't attest to the taste, but as I recall Lavendar-flavored didn't go over too well.

[fermicat]

Glad to hear it, Third EYe!

[La Bomba]

That's awesome, Third EYe! Glad to hear the good prognosis!

And congratulations to you, too, stellar! Daddyhood is the best!