Faustus' strange few month's

[faustus]

Hi everyone I have a story to tell not a happy one so if you don't like any tales of
love and pain stop reading now.

2 months ago I started a new job. It was an awesome job, the people are great and
the job is fun. One of my fellow workers caught my eye and well for a lack of a
better term I fell for her. So with a few weeks we started to hang out together you
know go to dinner go out and just have some fun, and during work hours we used to
send messages to each other through internal e-mail. People started noticing that we
were getting along like a house on fire. I thought she was also falling for me cos well
the basic signs where there ( e.g. she didn't recoil away from me in disgust) on Friday
just passed we thought it be a good idea to go out and play pool. Whilst there we
where flirting like mad and we where having a spectacular time. Then last night I had
invited her to come with me to my mates 30th birthday party. We where early and
everyone was commenting on how we looked like we had been together for a very
long time (we had at this time only know each other for 2 1/2 months) as one person
said you look like you have know each other for years. Then later that night I was
outside talking to her we both had a bit to drink but neither of us were slurring our
speech e.t.c. and then she hit's me with the comment "I know you love me, but I can't
love you like you want me too" at this well let's just say I was shattered. and she
continues by saying that she had lead me on and she should have known better. The
only thing I could think of "was we are just so good together". My favorite line of the
night was "you're a great catch but..." of which I sneered and made it out that I didn't
accept that line. So by the end of the night we where siting outside in the back yard
face to face practically sobbing at each other. My usual comment "how would you
know it wouldn't work" her reply "I just know". I couldn't sleep this night on Sunday
I talked about this to one of my friends and a cousin and they really tried to cheer me
up as the could tell I was depressed. I love them for that. But in the end I have to go
to work with this girl knowing she metaphorically ripped my heart out.

thanks for listening I just needed to vent a little.

[Xev]

:hug: Oh honey. I'm sorry to hear that...that's truely very very sad. I hope that your mood lifts and you are able to deal with this quickly.

[Boron]

Oh, man...... I've been down that road before, too. The only question I really have, is why did she lead you to believe there was something there?? I know it doesn't make you feel better, but I have always wondered why the female of the species does that particular little maneuver. Keep your chin up and show her that she passed up a good thing.

[Defect9]

Hey buddy, I feel for ya. At least it didnt go on for a long string of months on end, only to end it on a whim. She knows you're a good guy (by the statements, thats actually what she means), and she wanted to see if there was something there for her too. Thats why she "led you on". she was testing the waters, wanting to know if it would work. It sounded worse because you twoo had been drinking.

and Boron is right. keep your chin up. you learned something. She was willing to stick it out to find out if you were right for her. The right one is out there waiting for ya man. You'll find her, trust me. I found mine, and it took some hunting. You'll find yours, as long as you keep looking.

-J

[scrape_medic]

She lead you on knowing she did not want to take it anywhere?? Hell and damnation on her head!! Sorry about your tale of woe Faustus and ditto what Boron said....show her she passed up a good thing, which you are..:hug:

[faustus]

The only question I really have, is why did she lead you to believe there was something there??
I'd love to know that answer myself
but you guys are awesome thanks for the kind words
and the hugs

[I-am-so-Johns-girl]

:hug2: So sorry sweetie. :( Been there, done that many times....sigh. It really sucks but she's the :loser:loser...not you! There will be someone right for you one day. As others have mentioned, at least it wasn't longer before she did this. We love you! :love: :hugz:

*coughbitchcough*

[BlackThorn]

:hug: Fortune favors the brave? Good things come to those who wait? Who needs her anyways?

Here, have a :beer:

[Lord Loser]

Sounds to me like she was conflicted. Give her time and you'll see just what really develops. Try not to be cross or avoid her (tough, I know), just be the way you are and let things keep on the way they have to be right now. She'll work it out in her own mind and perhaps it will be more to your liking in the end.

Right now, it sucks to be you, but it only goes to show you do have a heart (in case there was any doubt with the bunnies and all... :P ).

[who45]

:hug:

[BrowderChick]

All I can do is send a :hug: Give her time. Maybe she will realize what she has lost. Let her have the time she needs to see this. Be there for her if she needs you and who knows what will happen. She might see that something really special could become of it. Life can throw some curve balls. I know its hard. But hang in there, things will look up. These things take time. They cant be rushed. Take more time to let her really get to know you. She just might like what she sees. If she doesnt, its her loss. :hug: Love and trust are two very difficult things. It takes time for both to develope. Who knows what will happen. But you can still be her friend and she can still be yours. Dont let emotions run away too far. Time heals and time bonds. She might surprise you. :hug:

[Nicola]

Sounds to me like she was conflicted. Give her time and you'll see just what really develops. Try not to be cross or avoid her (tough, I know), just be the way you are and let things keep on the way they have to be right now. She'll work it out in her own mind and perhaps it will be more to your liking in the end.

What he said.

Just don't wait around for her to recognise that.

[JadeScape]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v480/JadeScape/Smilies/hug.gif and http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v480/JadeScape/blinkies/hanginthere.gif

[ScaperJim]

Relationships...can't survive them easily, can't shoot little yellow bolts of light at them. Hang in there and Scape on. Hopefully she'll come to her senses.

[shadowshiv]

Hey faustus! I've been in that situation before, so I know how you feel. :( Just remember that you have friends here to talk to whenever you are down. :)

TOM :)

[scaperbuddy]

I've been down that road so I know how you feel. It hurts now but be glad you didn't find out much later down the road. You sound like a nice guy. There are other ladies out there that I am sure will be nice and glad to be your lady. Take Care.

[Darth Buddha]

To me, "conflicted" is a danger sign... don't burn your bridges, but move on, quickly.

Shows like Farscape keep us interested by having love, and the gluttony for punishment of the protagonists, conquer all. They endure all sorts of dreadful stuff from each other, but come through in the end.

In real life, you usually just get the punishment without "come through in the end".

[faustus]

here comes part 2

much happier I might add
OK today I went to work, well, as you may have noticed a little depressed. So
throughout the day me and the young lady in question where e-mailing each other on
things that where completely off topic of what happened Saturday night. But by the end
of the day I though it would be good if we sat down and had a talk She suggested we
go to a park with a pond, I agreed. So after work we made out way to the park and
got to the pond sat down on the pier and I gave here a letter I wrote about 3-4 hours
after the event a loooong letter took me around an hour to write so after 10 - 15 mins
she finished. We talked about our feelings and what we were to do. We know that that
as a couple we wouldn't become, but as mates we could continue to have fun cos we
are completely mad (as you may have noticed from my postings). So by the end of our
chat (lasted 3 hours) we had discussed our feelings and where we stand and how we
can continue with each other as friends.

So Saturday I lost a potential companion
Today I gained a friend (possibly a very good Friend)

I would like to thank everyone who posted on this subject and PM'd me it really
helped allot when I was hurting.

You guys rock

[BlackThorn]

:woohoo: :groove: :beer:

[faustus]

I'll have that beer now BlackThorn

[BrowderChick]

Oh that is great :hug: :D

[Boron]

It has been my experience that it is much better to part as friends, than to make an enemy. When I was really young, it seemed like every girl I went with ended up as my enemy in some way. After a while, I found that it was better to make an effort to maintain a friendship. A couple of times I got the ultimate compliment, when the girl approached me a couple of years later and told me she had made a mistake. It is much better to gain a friend than to make an enemy. It hurts sometimes, but that is part of being human. Without that pain, our characters would not fully develop.

[harveywhispers]

:hug:

[I-am-so-Johns-girl]

It has been my experience that it is much better to part as friends, than to make an enemy. When I was really young, it seemed like every girl I went with ended up as my enemy in some way. After a while, I found that it was better to make an effort to maintain a friendship. A couple of times I got the ultimate compliment, when the girl approached me a couple of years later and told me she had made a mistake. It is much better to gain a friend than to make an enemy. It hurts sometimes, but that is part of being human. Without that pain, our characters would not fully develop.
Very nicely put Boron! :hug2:

[JadeScape]

:hug: Glad to hear the part 2 turned out so well.....

[shadowshiv]

I am glad that things turned out better for you faustus. :)

[faustus]

damn you guys are awesome

[Yehuda]

The pain caused by the ever so popular mixed messages communication. There is a very popular book out now called "He's Just Not That Into You". It was written by a man to help women with the mixed signals that often causes them to lose weeks, months, and even years of precious time because they just aren't understanding what the other person is really telling them. While it is wriiten by a guy to help women understang guys, it works the other way around as well. If someone says ' I love you but I'm not in love with you, what they are really saying is ' your a nice person and I don't want to hurt your feelings but I'm not in love with you.' Take comfort in the fact that you may have lost 2 1/2 months but at least it wasn't 2 1/2 years. Sure it's hard to be in the same workplace but feels really bad about what happend too. You both cried so that mean she isn't an unfeeling bitch, just one who didn't know the right way to handle herself. It is nice that you agreed to be mates but be realistic, if you care for her in a more than friendship way this is going to hurt you big time down the line. Others may say I'm being mean but really, don't hang on and somehow harbor the hope that someday things will change. Do something nice for yourself. Plan a trip. Join a group of some kind. Meet up with Scapers in your area. Go to the movies. Take your dog out for a romp, or get some twirly toys for you cat or cats...don't have any pets ? visit someone who does or get one yourself. Or none of those things. I'm sure you can think of something that's legal and fun :)

[scrape_medic]

Thats pretty wise Yehuda.....but what ever you do Faustus....don't go out on a bunny killing spree..:no:

[Yehuda]

Thats pretty wise Yehuda.....but what ever you do Faustus....don't go out on a bunny killing spree..:no:
KIll a bunny ? Horrors !! Poor things we live in a world of predators and the bunnys seem like they are every predators' favorite snack.

:harvey: :kitty: :puppy:

[faustus]

I'm off
going to do some illegal fun things :D

[RedKarma]

That's awful dude. But in a few months when you're sporting another babe on your arm, she'll be kicking herself. HARD. ;)

Until that time, try to smile, and have a hug. :hug:

[shadowshiv]

I'm off
going to do some illegal fun things :D

I'm sure we'll read about it in tomorrow's papers. ;) :D

[faustus]

I'm sure we'll read about it in tomorrow's papers. ;) :D
mmmm maybe if we got caught

[BrowderChick]

Will there be a story told? ;)

[shadowshiv]

mmmm maybe if we got caught

So, did you get caught? ;) :D

[JadeScape]

was there pictures taken.....:lol

[shadowshiv]

was there pictures taken.....:lol

Not sure if that would be a good thing or not... ;) :D :D

[JadeScape]

Not sure if that would be a good thing or not... ;) :D :D
True...probably to riskay.....:lol

[Boron]

Hmmmmmm..............Maybe we could sell them??

[faustus]

Hmmmmmm..............Maybe we could sell them??
no selling! they will be burned and the negatives are safe with me

Will there be a story told? ;)
I'd love to but there might be police around

So, did you get caught? ;) :D
hell no where carefull when we..... well no comment

[BrowderChick]

Awww, you're no fun. :D

[Boron]

Don't worry, BC. We'll catch him on film doing something sometime. (Sneaky little devil that he is).

[faustus]

there where cameras?
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

let's just say statues are really high. (when you stand ontop of the head screaming "I need a beer")

[StarsGoBlue]

faustus, just gotta say... you rock. :hug:

[shadowshiv]

no selling! they will be burned and the negatives are safe with me


I'd love to but there might be police around


hell no where carefull when we..... well no comment

Of course, him talking about his exploits here won't be used against him in a Court of Law. ;) :D

[faustus]

Of course, him talking about his exploits here won't be used against him in a Court of Law. ;) :D
exactly

now who needs a beer?

[shadowshiv]

exactly

now who needs a beer?

I would like one please, but I am currently stuck at work. :(

[JadeScape]

here one for you guys....http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v480/JadeScape/Smilies/beer1.gifhttp://img.photobucket.com/albums/v480/JadeScape/Smilies/beer.gif