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Jul
02-25-2005, 01:53 AM
I'm very, very saddened to report that that we've lost one of our fellow Scapers. We were contacted earlier this week by the mother of Ben Feld, who went by the username Scarran Raptor (http://www.watchfarscape.com/forums/member.php?u=3107) here at FMD, and informed that Ben was killed in a car accident two weeks before his 27th birthday on August 28th, 2004. At the time of his death, Ben was just a few credits short of graduating with his BA from Florida International University. He has left behind family and friends that share that he was the bravest and one of the kindnest people they knew.

I am posting here the post that his best friend, the leader of the Star Trek group USS Blackstar, posted at the Toon Zone community that he also posted at and the eulogy that was read by his best friend at his funeral on August 31st, 2004. If anybody is interested, please e-mail emanuel.camachoATadelphia.net and give your full name to light an Online Candle for Ben. His family would appreciate it very much.

The news: http://www.mahq.net/archive/aug2004.htm

http://www.beaconnewspaper.com/news/2004/09/16/News/Vice-President.Of.Fiu.Anime.Club.Killed.In.Car.Accident -722984.shtml

http://forums.toonzone.net/showthread.php?t=120452
One of my best friends, Ben Feld, better know to us TZ'ers as Shogunthethird has passed away due to a car accident this past weekend. He was 26.

He was the Vice President of the local anime club, and was driving a group of them as part of a carpool to a Japanese Culture Museum (coincidentally, the Museum had a ceremony for the dead that night, where Ben was remembered by his friends)

On the way to the Museum, Ben's car was cut off by a speeding car merging with the Turnpike. The car struck the front of Ben's Mom's SUV, tossing it into the next lane. He fought to regain control of the car, but it flipped over 3 times. The rolling SUV moved toward the median and barely missed hitting a Light Post and the canal. Unfortunately, the car stopped, upsidedown, by slamming into a tree. Ben was killed on impact. The passenger managed to turn the engine off before he lost consciousness, he had to be airlifted to the hospital with a fractured arm and various other injuries. The 3 passengers in the back were relatively safe (the girl in the middle suffered a Seatbelt scratch and a sprained wrist) and managed to crawl to safety.

All involved in the crash will be changed forever and all require alot of emotional healing and therapy. Their wounds will heal, but nothing will ever be able to erase the memories of being present while one of their friends dies.

The person responsible for the accident has been apprehended by authorities and is being charged with Vehicular Manslaughter.

Ben was good friend to me. I could always "geek-out" with him, talk about the hobbies and interests that others would shun. I could tell him things I couldn't tell my family. He was alwas around to go see a cheesy movie or just to hang out and talk at the pizza buffet. A truer friend than most and he will surely be missed.

thank you.

and the eulogy:
When I got the news that Ben had left us, I was in the middle of discussions about a trip we were about to take to, in part, celebrate his 26th birthday. It was a devastating blow, as you can imagine. Everything stopped. I couldn’t even think straight about it. I’d just seen him a week ago at our STARFLEET meeting. I even have a picture of him from about this time last year when we went to Universal Studios. The picture is of him, me and our friend Anselmo posing with Shaggy and Scooby-Doo. Ever the jokester, he’s posing as if he were a hungry puppy begging for table scraps. I look back at pictures of that trip, and of the many pictures we have of him from our chapter website, and I still can’t believe he’s gone.

I met Ben a day after he joined our group. We were at a gaming convention, and he joined us the day he met us. Even then, I saw that we had a character on our hands. He was funny, quick and smart. And he was fun to be around. But as I got to know him, I also saw that he was a caring, hard-working and loyal person as well. He would have his moments, as we all do. But he knew at most times when to be serious and when to be jovial. He helped us not take ourselves too seriously, as he never took himself.

As a member of our group, he was a dedicated and selfless worker. For those of you who don’t know, the BLACKSTAR is part STAR TREK fan group and part community service organization. Ben participated with us in countless activities, both charitable and social. As part of our group, he participated with us for the Jerry Lewis MDA Telethon, the Juvenile Diabetes Foundation fundraiser walk at MetroZoo, and our projects to benefit the local charity organization HANDS-ON MIAMI.

He also took part in the many conventions and fun trips the group took. The one I will remember most, I think, is the trip we took early last year to the Disney/MGM Studios. There, Ben and I posed for one of those “fun photos” as Anakin Skywalker and Obi-Wan Kenobi from the STAR WARS films. I think, more than anything, it shows both his dedication to fandom and his not-so-serious attitude toward life.

The Ben I knew—the Ben I KNOW and will always remember—is a great person, a great fan, a great officer…but most importantly, a great friend. I will miss him, as will we all.

Ben, The Word Is Given…Warp Speed, My Friend.

:cry2:

My personal message - God bless you, Ben Feld. May God keep you close to his heart and bless your soul, keeping you in a better place.

waltersgirl
02-25-2005, 02:10 AM
because there are no words that make this better. :hug:

who45
02-25-2005, 04:29 AM
Thoughts and prayers going out to his family and friends. :hug:

malachilenomade
02-25-2005, 04:36 AM
:(

:hugz:

BaseLine
02-25-2005, 05:01 AM
Why do the good always die young? My sincere condolences to Ben's family and friends.

Johnsgirl727
02-25-2005, 05:32 AM
:cry2:

generic_screenname
02-25-2005, 05:35 AM
This is really too sad for words. My thoughts are with his family.

I-am-so-Johns-girl
02-25-2005, 05:43 AM
:cry2: Rest in peace Ben. :hug2:

janey_13
02-25-2005, 05:58 AM
:hugz: and prayers for Ben's friends and family.

DRD2001
02-25-2005, 06:17 AM
:cry2: I'll miss Ben. My thoughts and good wishes go out to his family. And special thanks to his mother for sharing this loss with us. :hugz:

Xallanthia
02-25-2005, 06:26 AM
:hugz: there's nothing really to say... prayers for his family!

SabaceanBabe
02-25-2005, 06:37 AM
Goodbye, Ben. :(

kechara420
02-25-2005, 06:39 AM
:( Such a tragic loss. I didn't know him well, but from what I've read, he was a wonderful person and a true fan of scifi/anime.

His family and friends are in my prayers.


Wind to thy wings, friend. May your soul find peace.

zahncrelnik
02-25-2005, 07:09 AM
:cry2:

NYPinTA
02-25-2005, 07:16 AM
:( :( :(

JadedLegend3
02-25-2005, 07:37 AM
:( :hugz: and prayers for his family. :(

kymom5613
02-25-2005, 07:48 AM
sending my prayers as well... :hugz:

LiLOrion
02-25-2005, 08:11 AM
:(

Kurt_eh
02-25-2005, 08:47 AM
:( :cry2: :hugz:

AyuRocks
02-25-2005, 09:09 AM
:cry2: Lots of : :hugz: to his family :cry2:

AgentSun
02-25-2005, 09:30 AM
It's absolutely amazing how much of a loss we feel. We might not have known you, Ben, in face, but we know you through your time here and we love you and miss you.

I really don't think there's been a loss before. I haven't recalled one. It's amazing the feelings that we're all feeling right now...we have this amazing sense of community. We're truly like a family.

Is there a place we could send anything to? I don't know, I just feel like something should be sent...cards, flowers, whatever. Support is important at a time like this.

uisceboo
02-25-2005, 09:32 AM
I send my love and sympathy for Ben's family and friends everywhere.


"Then I will tell you a great secret Captain, perhaps the greatest of all time. The molecules of your body are the same molecules that make up this station and the nebula outside; that burn inside the stars themselves. We are starstuff. We are the universe made manifest, trying to figure itself out...." A Distant Star, Babylon 5

:candle:When I look up at the stars, I will remember you, Ben. You are with us forever. Shine on!

Judith
02-25-2005, 09:59 AM
I don't know what to say, other than that's just not fair.

My thoughts and prayer to his family and loved ones.

trinamick
02-25-2005, 10:01 AM
:( :cry2: You will be missed, Ben.

harveywhispers
02-25-2005, 10:21 AM
My thoughts to those he left behind...

Antrobus
02-25-2005, 10:44 AM
:sadbye:
"Toward another
he has gone
to breathe an air
beyond his own
toward a wisdom
beyond the shelf
toward a dream
that dreams itself" ....Patti Smith

trubador
02-25-2005, 10:48 AM
:pace: ........frell....... :pace:

BritAngie
02-25-2005, 10:55 AM
:cry2: Sooooo sad to hear of Ben passing and in such a tragic way. :( He will be missed and send warmth thoughts and prayers his family and close friends way.

Primaleick
02-25-2005, 11:24 AM
I never talked to the guy, but I cannot help to feel so sad. My deepest condolences go out to his family and friends.

We just lost a 12 year old girl here, she was hit by a train last week...such a waste.

kazbaby
02-25-2005, 12:13 PM
My deepest sympathies to Ben's family.

He'll be missed. :sadbye:

farscapebaby
02-25-2005, 12:31 PM
My prayers are with his real life family and our family here at FMD.
Much love to you all.
Tina :cry2:

La Bomba
02-25-2005, 01:43 PM
Ben was very funny and clever. He was a regular on the Caption Thread, and I always looked forward to his posts there.

My deepest condolances to the family and friends he has left behind. Rest in Peace, Ben.:( :hugz:

Mazinkaiser
02-25-2005, 03:49 PM
:hugz: to his family

scrape_medic
02-25-2005, 04:19 PM
:(

Nicola
02-25-2005, 04:24 PM
:hugz: to his friends and family. A very sad day.

grinner
02-25-2005, 05:31 PM
:cry2:

Sad news indeed. I wondered what happened to him, haven't seen him online... *sigh* May the Lord shine his face upon you and give you peace...

BrowderChick
02-25-2005, 05:34 PM
Warm thoughts and sympathy to his family and friends. :hug: :( Too sad to lose a life too soon.

Also, Buddha sends his sincerest regards and sympathy to Ben's friends, family and online pals.

:( :cry2:

Owlman
02-25-2005, 08:56 PM
Damn

RIP Brother

vikingscaper
02-25-2005, 10:01 PM
:(

waltersgirl
02-25-2005, 10:06 PM
Wind to thy wings, friend. May your soul find peace.

awww man. that's beautiful.

Wolli World
02-25-2005, 10:35 PM
:hugz: That is so sad. :(

My prayers are with Ben and his family.

I almost died in an SUV rollover crash almost exactly like that one on the Jersey Turnpike almost 10 years ago. The difference was, we rolled to a stop and landed right side up - I guess that's what saved us. One comforting thought is if their experience was anything like ours, he hopefully felt no pain and never even knew what happened.

God bless you Ben, and here's to what sounds like a life well lived. :beergood:

mmaddog
02-26-2005, 02:47 AM
As a Farscape Group manager, I would like to extend the condolences of the entire FarscapePeaceKeepers Group at msn to Ben Feld's family & friends.
We are all greatly saddened by the loss of a fellow Scaper and no words would suffice to express our sympathies to those close to Ben. We would just like his family to know that our prayers go out to them at this time.

Sincerely,
Michael McElheron
mmaddog - FMD
ToManyMadDogs - FarscapePeaceKeepers.msn.groups

Madre Farbot
02-26-2005, 05:46 AM
I knew virtually nothing of him, but even though this thing happened last year it has still come as a big shock.

... Nick Roche, if you ever get to read this post, I hope that you will find a little bit of Ben in other new friends that you may meet.

I feel that I have now been given a little inspiration from our fellow scaper's endevours.

For all who knew him - freinds and family :hugz: :sun:

In Memorium (http://www.geocities.com/njr1701e/In_Memory_Of_Ben_Feld.html)

RedKarma
02-26-2005, 01:44 PM
Many hugs and prayers for Ben's family and friends, he will be missed.

Clarsax
02-26-2005, 03:31 PM
:cry2:

Bandana Girl
02-26-2005, 03:41 PM
:cry2:

Nhoj
02-26-2005, 06:41 PM
I didn't know him, but from what I read I would have liked him. My sincerest condolences to his family and friends both in the real world and online. :(

"Good night sweet prince and may flights of angeles carry thee to thy rest."

nhfearme
02-26-2005, 10:01 PM
I'll miss you Raptor. :'(

Sayadina
02-27-2005, 12:40 AM
My thoughts are with Ben's friends and family. I know there are no words to make this any easier, but please know that my heart goes out to you all.

fermicat
02-27-2005, 09:11 AM
This is shocking news and I don't quite know what to say. Very sad. I hope his friends and family find peace.

blue
02-28-2005, 01:33 AM
My condolences to all his friends and family. He was part of this online community, and his loss makes me sad, even though I never met him in person.

StephX
02-28-2005, 10:55 AM
:(

F16WarBird
02-28-2005, 06:03 PM
And God said...

I said, "God, I hurt."
And God said, "I know."

I said, "God, I cry a lot."
And God said,
"That is why I gave you tears."

I said, "God, I am so depressed."
And God said,
"That is why I gave you Sunshine."

I said, "God, life is so hard."
And God said,
"That is why I gave you loved ones."

I said, "God, my loved one died."
And God said,
"so did mine "

I said, "God, it is such a loss."
And God said,
"I saw mine nailed to a cross."

I said, "God, but your loved one lives."
And God said,
"So does yours."

I said, "God, where are they now?"
And God said,
"Mine is on My right and yours is in the Light."

I said, "God, it hurts."
And God said,
"I know."

Posted on the wall at the Oklahoma City bombing site

Rest peacefully.

BrowderChick
02-28-2005, 06:19 PM
:cry2: that was beautiful.

BrowderChick
02-28-2005, 06:31 PM
This was always something that touched me.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

(1) I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

(2) When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!)


Text by Mary Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.

(3) I am the song that will never end.
I am the love of family and friend.
I am the child who has come to rest
In the arms of the Father who knows him best.

(4) When you see the sunset fair,
I am the scented evening air.
I am the joy of a task well done.
I am the glow of the setting sun.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!)


(Copyright) text by Wilbur Skeels

stellar
03-01-2005, 12:54 PM
:(.

Mike0812
03-01-2005, 12:57 PM
:( Very, very sad news :(

Clarsax
03-01-2005, 07:28 PM
F16WarBird, BrowderChick, those are both beautiful. It is very sad. He will be missed. :(

freckle
03-03-2005, 04:57 AM
:bouquet:
FLOWERS FOR BEN

Questmaker
03-03-2005, 06:24 AM
My condolences to his family and friends.

Egraine
03-03-2005, 10:21 AM
My heartfelt condolences to his family, friends and the Scaper community. Take comfort in the good and joy that Ben lived.

JadeScape
03-03-2005, 11:34 AM
My condolences to his family and friends.... :( :bouquet: :cry2:

Selena
03-03-2005, 01:02 PM
I miss you SR ... I cherished the PMs you sent me to cheer me up when things were at their worst.
May you rest in peace in the "arms of the gentle goddess."

DangerWillRobinson
03-03-2005, 04:26 PM
:hugz: May god bless you.

CookieCat
03-03-2005, 08:48 PM
This is so sad. :(

My deepest sympathies to his family and friends.

talyn3
03-03-2005, 09:47 PM
no words really man

peace brother, peace

Staleek_Sucks
03-04-2005, 12:46 AM
I did not know this man, but my deepest sympathies go out to his friends and family. Nothing can truly be said to lessen the mourning of this tragic event. However his life should be looked on as a happy one and all that matters is that his friends and family loved him and cared for him. Although he is gone he will still live on through his loved ones.

All I can say is that I hope he is at peace.

JA_Shipper
03-04-2005, 05:13 AM
So sad. :( My thoughts are with his family and friends.

Suse

pk_killer
03-04-2005, 02:35 PM
my condolences to the family....

that is a horrible loss.

ruckstande
03-05-2005, 09:08 PM
Speechless.

DRD 1812
03-05-2005, 09:38 PM
My heart goes out to his family and friends. A loss in the Scaper community.

USAFWife
03-05-2005, 11:26 PM
I send my condolences to Ben Feld's family and friends. Though I didn't really know him it's a shame to hear about stuff like this.

chri-baby
03-06-2005, 06:53 AM
May god rest his sole and comfort those by whom he shall surely be missed.
My sincerest condolences.

jerseygirl
03-06-2005, 07:18 PM
Some time ago, my nephew died. He had been an active participant on the MUD. I know that when his fellow gamers received the news of his death, the site was filled with messages of condolence and thoughts for Nick and his family. And I know how much they appreciated hearing from so many of his cyberfriends. So all my thoughts go out to Ben's family. I hope it's some comfort to them to know how many people miss him.

FarCat
03-07-2005, 08:17 PM
My deepest sympathies to Ben's family and friends. What a great loss for you and for those of us in the Farscape family of fans.