Life just gets worse and worse

Scaper_S · 02-19-2005, 05:13 PM

Well, I feel suicidal

Both my businesses have gone bust
Can't get a job
Potential new boyfriend told me it's over (before its even begun)
Can't afford to heat my house or buy food
About to have said house reposessed
About to be made bankrupt.
I'm a complete failure in life.

Any suggestions? I was thinking train tracks would do it or maybe hanging.

DRD2001 · 02-19-2005, 05:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Scaper_S

Well, I feel suicidal

Both my businesses have gone bust
Can't get a job
Potential new boyfriend told me it's over (before its even begun)
Can't afford to heat my house or buy food
About to have said house reposessed
About to be made bankrupt.
I'm a complete failure in life.

Any suggestions? I was thinking train tracks would do it or maybe hanging.

Well, lets see...
Money can be replaced. A business that goes bust isn't that bad. You can still start over.
Boyfriend sounds like a loser. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Heat and food and reposession. Ok, this one is bad. But that doesn't make you a failure by a longshot. Stuff happens. You've got friends. You'll get through it. It won't be fun, but it is survivable. There have been some pretty dark days in my life too. I once lived in my car for several weeks cause I had no where else to go. Now, when I look back on that time, I laugh. But when I was going through it, it was so depressing.

Do you attend any churches. They may be able to assist. And don't think of it as charity, but just a loan till you can pay them back. Talk to your friends. They may not be able to assist financially, but they can provide a casserole and a shoulder to cry on. Also, maybe there are some social service organizations who can help too. And don't wait for advice on the reposession. Get advice now from some sort of legal aid, cause early action will negate a lot of problems. Also, since you mentioned house, can you take in borders to help provide more money? I also know 101 small ways to save money (really small ways) if you're interested.

I hate to hear about all this crud hitting you at once. I wish I had better advice for you. I've got a lot of friends here who are also in difficulties due to the industries shutting down left and right.

I'm here for you if you need to yell, vent or just talk.

BrowderChick · 02-19-2005, 05:39 PM

We are all here to talk if you need us.

Gaussian · 02-19-2005, 06:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Scaper_S

Well, I feel suicidal

Both my businesses have gone bust
Can't get a job
Potential new boyfriend told me it's over (before its even begun)
Can't afford to heat my house or buy food
About to have said house reposessed
About to be made bankrupt.
I'm a complete failure in life.

Any suggestions? I was thinking train tracks would do it or maybe hanging.

Sometimes you learn the most from your failures.

Look at people who have successful bussinesses.........most have had prior failures. Often more than one!!!

The boyfriend.............if it's over before it's started.......be glad you got out without any real mess. It probably wasn't meant to be.

I wouldn't do the traintracks..........tommorrow is another day! You never know what can happen.

Lord Loser · 02-19-2005, 06:22 PM

Sawlright ducks...
it'll work out.

who45 · 02-19-2005, 06:42 PM

Sorry things are not going well now, but remember you have all of us here to help you thru.

Judith · 02-19-2005, 07:08 PM

Please know that suicide is not worth it. Here are some links with some suicide hotline info...it's free and you'll get to talk to someone who is experienced in dealing with problems like this, and will not judge you. http://www.suicide-helplines.org/uk.htm
http://suicidehotlines.com/international.html

DRD 2001 has some great advice about church groups...they often provide great social services with minimal cost. Many will charge no fee, and those that do often charge on a sliding scale.

In the meantime, we're here for you if you need to blow off steam.

I hope you realize that it was brave of you to post here and ask for help.

Do you have any family or friends who live close by? It might help to stay with another person for a while.

Please stay safe tonight and remember you have people here who care about you.

**Edited to change links because I just noticed that you're in the UK**

kechara420 · 02-19-2005, 07:36 PM

I know things are difficult for you right now, but Judith is right--suicide IS NOT an answer. Once you're gone, maybe things can't get any worse--but they can't get any better, either. Just hang in there, and sooner or later, life WILL get better.

Not sure how it works in the UK, but are there social services that can give you assistance with the housing/money/food situations? There are a nunber of government programs here that help people with stuff like that. And DON'T feel ashamed about asking for help! Everyone goes through hard times. That's why such programs exist.

If you need to talk, we're here for you. Take care.

Clarsax · 02-19-2005, 08:16 PM

We're always here for you. A lot of people here have some good advice and I hope they can help you to come up with something. Just remember, you're not alone. I was unemployed for fourteen months before finding the job I have now and things got pretty tight for a while. But I pulled through and everything is gradually getting better and better. I'm sure it will for you too. If you have any friends or family close to you, talk to them and maybe even stay with them for a little while. Having someone with you that you can talk to face to face really helps when everything seems to be going wrong. I hope you start feeling better soon. I'm sure everything will work out if you keep trying.

Scaper_S · 02-19-2005, 11:22 PM

thanks for all your replies. I'm afraid I have done all the helplines, legal people, social services and housing (who said "we refuse to help you - you brought this on yourself") and I have no religious leaning so that's not an option.

Friends and family just refuse to believe the extent of my problems as I've always been their problem solver.

At the moment, living out of my car is an option though.

I'm at the point where I can't sleep any more. I really can't see any other way out.

Kathleen · 02-19-2005, 11:34 PM

I'm not sure how much I can help. I've been fighting depression and have had suicidal feelings since I was about 15. No one can tell you what to do, but we can plead with yu to push through another day.

If your friends and family won't believe you by you telling them, then SHOW them. Show them the bills. Show them whatever you have to show them to help them understand that it IS as bad as you're telling them. Then ask them for their help. If necessary, tell them that you've always been there for them, it's time to call in some favors. It sounds hard, but so are the feelings you're experiencing right now.

Just know that you are not alone in this world. You have people that care about what happens to you. You have people that will try and help you in whatever way that can be done. If you need to talk, rant, cry or plead with, we are all right here willing to help!! If you want to talk to someone that's been through ALL of what you're going through, pm me. I don't know if I'll help much, but I can relate some of the things I did to help get through my problems.

and much

Jul · 02-20-2005, 12:43 AM

Scaper_S, i know it seems like the hole that you're in just gets deeper and deeper, and darker, and there only seems to be one way out. But, that's the lie of it. There are other ways out other than suicide. Please call the hotlines again, please seek the services of a psychologist. If you think you can't stop yourself, call somebody to come stay with you or call the police so that they can help you.

Nhoj · 02-20-2005, 03:11 AM

I'm sorry to hear about all the difficulties you are faceing right now and I agree with everything everyone here is saying to you. Life is bad now but life will get better. Wait for the wheel may sound like trite psycobabble but it is true. The only time their is no chance for life to get better is when life is over. Don't give up on yourself. As for your not being religous, honestly, you don't have to be. Go and get help wherever it's offered. Any helping hand that gets you through the bad times is fine. Don't be to proud to look in an unaccustomed place for aid, and if the worst you have to sit through is a sermon or two to help get you back up on your feet than it's all good.
A church pew beats railroad tracks anytime. Good luck and my best wishes and prayers will be with you.

Primaleick · 02-20-2005, 10:01 AM

Well there's not much I can say that hasn't been said by the others.

I'm not working either, I've been trying for...I can't even remember how long, jobs are a bitch to get.

But please what you're thinking of doing? DON'T!! it's not worth it...I know everything is bad right now but it'll get better, it has to. Just hang in there

My brother was very depressed a couple years back and we all thought he was going to kill himself suicide runs on my dads side he had two brothers that ended their lives and even my dad thought and felt like it many times...but we got help for him and my brother, he's on medication for the rest of his life.

I can't say I know what it's like what your going through...but again DON'T DO IT!! get help somehow, someway.

I wish there was something I could do.
Just know that we are all here for you if you need us.

God bless you.

02-20-2005, 10:31 AM

Always here for a hug. (((((((((((((((((Scaper_S))))))))))))))))))

Poor thing.

You really do need a break, and that fast. But please don't let that break be terminal. You'll miss out on the sequel.

Find yourself a break, whatever that means to you. True, if you were to kill yourself now, all the responsibility would be off your shoulders. No more worries. So, little insane thought- safe yourself the trouble to kill yourself and do some other stupid thing instead. Take whatever little money you have and treat yourself. Have icecream, buy all the Farscape DVD's, do something you've always wanted to do but never could, whatever. Yes you can't afford it but if you were dead then it would not make a difference either, right?

Think about the things, the people you love. You could no longer be with them. They would miss you.

Some things are out of your hands. Nothing you can do about them. So let go. Let things roll. What is gonna happen is gonna happen. Focus on whatever little things you can control.

Damn I know about being the strong person in the family- they all come to you and you yourself don't have a shoulder to lean on. That really sucks. Still, there probably is a reason for why they do that. With all the lonelyness, you are stronger than you realize (and if it makes you feel better, you can now loudly disagree with me and picture yourself shoving something down my throat.)

About the guy, he was not worth you. Or he might turn around and change his mind some day - weirder things have happened, you might even discover you don't want him anymore and are better off without him. Show him what he's missed out on. Or you could meet someone better. But you won't find that out if you end it now.

I can only tell you that whenever something nice happens in my life, I am so very glad I didn't jump. There were beautiful things in your life before. They will be there again.

02-19-2005, 05:13 PM	#1
Scaper_S I Need a Holodeck... Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: UK Posts: 460	Life just gets worse and worse Well, I feel suicidal Both my businesses have gone bust Can't get a job Potential new boyfriend told me it's over (before its even begun) Can't afford to heat my house or buy food About to have said house reposessed About to be made bankrupt. I'm a complete failure in life. Any suggestions? I was thinking train tracks would do it or maybe hanging. __________________ May the goddess receive you with charity. May the goddess sanctify your spirit. May the goddess recite your name on the whispers of the wind. *"I'm not left handed either"* *Calm Now. Freak Later.* Crackers Matter - Fan Site::Crackers Matter - Blog::Crackers Matter - Forum

02-19-2005, 05:39 PM	#3
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02-19-2005, 06:22 PM	#5
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02-19-2005, 06:42 PM	#6
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02-19-2005, 07:08 PM	#7
Judith hopelessly hopeless Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: hanging out with the dream king Posts: 3,384	Please know that suicide is not worth it. Here are some links with some suicide hotline info...it's free and you'll get to talk to someone who is experienced in dealing with problems like this, and will not judge you. http://www.suicide-helplines.org/uk.htm http://suicidehotlines.com/international.html DRD 2001 has some great advice about church groups...they often provide great social services with minimal cost. Many will charge no fee, and those that do often charge on a sliding scale. In the meantime, we're here for you if you need to blow off steam. I hope you realize that it was brave of you to post here and ask for help. Do you have any family or friends who live close by? It might help to stay with another person for a while. Please stay safe tonight and remember you have people here who care about you. Edited to change links because I just noticed that you're in the UK __________________ Callsign: K.P. We are ugly, but we have the music. i woke up and one of us was crying my livejournal http://www.anyratrescue.org Last edited by Judith : 02-19-2005 at 07:37 PM.

02-19-2005, 07:36 PM	#8
kechara420 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Gone to a new home ... Posts: 7,462	I know things are difficult for you right now, but Judith is right--suicide IS NOT an answer. Once you're gone, maybe things can't get any worse--but they can't get any better, either. Just hang in there, and sooner or later, life WILL get better. Not sure how it works in the UK, but are there social services that can give you assistance with the housing/money/food situations? There are a nunber of government programs here that help people with stuff like that. And DON'T feel ashamed about asking for help! Everyone goes through hard times. That's why such programs exist. If you need to talk, we're here for you. Take care. __________________ Gone to another home ...

02-19-2005, 08:16 PM	#9
Clarsax Stykera in Training Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Stark's side Posts: 6,166	We're always here for you. A lot of people here have some good advice and I hope they can help you to come up with something. Just remember, you're not alone. I was unemployed for fourteen months before finding the job I have now and things got pretty tight for a while. But I pulled through and everything is gradually getting better and better. I'm sure it will for you too. If you have any friends or family close to you, talk to them and maybe even stay with them for a little while. Having someone with you that you can talk to face to face really helps when everything seems to be going wrong. I hope you start feeling better soon. I'm sure everything will work out if you keep trying. __________________ "I have no fear of losing my life - if I have to save a koala or a crocodile or a kangaroo or a snake, mate, I will save it." ~ Steve Irwin RIP Steve (1962-2006) We'll miss you. Travel light. Forget hate. ~ Stark Soft, yes. Weak? No. ~ Zhaan "Life is an aquatic phenomenon" ~ Dr. John Miller

02-19-2005, 11:22 PM	#10
Scaper_S I Need a Holodeck... Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: UK Posts: 460	thanks for all your replies. I'm afraid I have done all the helplines, legal people, social services and housing (who said "we refuse to help you - you brought this on yourself") and I have no religious leaning so that's not an option. Friends and family just refuse to believe the extent of my problems as I've always been their problem solver. At the moment, living out of my car is an option though. I'm at the point where I can't sleep any more. I really can't see any other way out. __________________ May the goddess receive you with charity. May the goddess sanctify your spirit. May the goddess recite your name on the whispers of the wind. *"I'm not left handed either"* *Calm Now. Freak Later.* Crackers Matter - Fan Site::Crackers Matter - Blog::Crackers Matter - Forum

02-19-2005, 11:34 PM	#11
Kathleen Certifiable Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: A bubble just shy of center... Posts: 2,501	I'm not sure how much I can help. I've been fighting depression and have had suicidal feelings since I was about 15. No one can tell you what to do, but we can plead with yu to push through another day. If your friends and family won't believe you by you telling them, then SHOW them. Show them the bills. Show them whatever you have to show them to help them understand that it IS as bad as you're telling them. Then ask them for their help. If necessary, tell them that you've always been there for them, it's time to call in some favors. It sounds hard, but so are the feelings you're experiencing right now. Just know that you are not alone in this world. You have people that care about what happens to you. You have people that will try and help you in whatever way that can be done. If you need to talk, rant, cry or plead with, we are all right here willing to help!! If you want to talk to someone that's been through ALL of what you're going through, pm me. I don't know if I'll help much, but I can relate some of the things I did to help get through my problems. and much __________________ Kat (aka...Kelley) Avatar by Barbarella *In my life, I finally got IT together.... Then I forgot where I put IT!!!* Don't F**k With The Spirit Of The Lamp!!! Creator of the FMD You Ain't Right Club Member of Commandant Grayza's Lonely Hearts Club Member of Midsummer Night's Dreamy Delvian Blue Bottom Club Member of H2C3... ermm.. club Member of the Secret "Groove" Society --- WRONG Leverrrrrr!!!

02-20-2005, 12:43 AM	#12
Jul Brain Stem/Blossom Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: I'd tell you, but I'd have to kill you Posts: 8,577	Scaper_S, i know it seems like the hole that you're in just gets deeper and deeper, and darker, and there only seems to be one way out. But, that's the lie of it. There are other ways out other than suicide. Please call the hotlines again, please seek the services of a psychologist. If you think you can't stop yourself, call somebody to come stay with you or call the police so that they can help you. __________________ Jul Motorpool LFFF #2 "...and that's how Aeryn died" Freedom. Isn't. Free. avatar courtesy of _jems_'s LJ

02-20-2005, 03:11 AM	#13
Nhoj Frelling Passenger Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Paveing the road to hell since 1957 Posts: 587	I'm sorry to hear about all the difficulties you are faceing right now and I agree with everything everyone here is saying to you. Life is bad now but life will get better. Wait for the wheel may sound like trite psycobabble but it is true. The only time their is no chance for life to get better is when life is over. Don't give up on yourself. As for your not being religous, honestly, you don't have to be. Go and get help wherever it's offered. Any helping hand that gets you through the bad times is fine. Don't be to proud to look in an unaccustomed place for aid, and if the worst you have to sit through is a sermon or two to help get you back up on your feet than it's all good. A church pew beats railroad tracks anytime. Good luck and my best wishes and prayers will be with you. __________________ Scape Ya Later! *"Nebari mental cleansing doesn't get the tough stains out."* John - Durka Returns *"Nobody, has pizza ... with margaritas."* John - Crackers Don't Matter

02-20-2005, 10:01 AM	#14
Primaleick The WickerMan Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Cirra Posts: 259	Well there's not much I can say that hasn't been said by the others. I'm not working either, I've been trying for...I can't even remember how long, jobs are a bitch to get. But please what you're thinking of doing? DON'T!! it's not worth it...I know everything is bad right now but it'll get better, it has to. Just hang in there My brother was very depressed a couple years back and we all thought he was going to kill himself suicide runs on my dads side he had two brothers that ended their lives and even my dad thought and felt like it many times...but we got help for him and my brother, he's on medication for the rest of his life. I can't say I know what it's like what your going through...but again DON'T DO IT!! get help somehow, someway. I wish there was something I could do. Just know that we are all here for you if you need us. God bless you. __________________ "It's lonely sometimes in the fast lane People come and go like rain. And I look around for a hand to hold, but there's no one here today everyone has gone away and left me in the fray. So don't wish upon a star because it's dark and lonely gets you so far. And it doesn's matter who you are because the sky looks better from the ground anyway. You never know what you got, and even if you do it don't mean its gonna stay. Tommorow is another day you only live once and I'm living for today. I'm living for today!" Lindsay Lohan's new album "A Little More Personal (Raw)" is out now on Casablanca Records. LINDSAY ROCKS!! ~ The ultra super sexy multi-talented sweet Lindsay Lohan ~ one day I will meet her.

02-20-2005, 10:31 AM	#15
Zimtsternchen Posts: n/a	Always here for a hug. (((((((((((((((((Scaper_S)))))))))))))))))) Poor thing. You really do need a break, and that fast. But please don't let that break be terminal. You'll miss out on the sequel. Find yourself a break, whatever that means to you. True, if you were to kill yourself now, all the responsibility would be off your shoulders. No more worries. So, little insane thought- safe yourself the trouble to kill yourself and do some other stupid thing instead. Take whatever little money you have and treat yourself. Have icecream, buy all the Farscape DVD's, do something you've always wanted to do but never could, whatever. Yes you can't afford it but if you were dead then it would not make a difference either, right? Think about the things, the people you love. You could no longer be with them. They would miss you. Some things are out of your hands. Nothing you can do about them. So let go. Let things roll. What is gonna happen is gonna happen. Focus on whatever little things you can control. Damn I know about being the strong person in the family- they all come to you and you yourself don't have a shoulder to lean on. That really sucks. Still, there probably is a reason for why they do that. With all the lonelyness, you are stronger than you realize (and if it makes you feel better, you can now loudly disagree with me and picture yourself shoving something down my throat.) About the guy, he was not worth you. Or he might turn around and change his mind some day - weirder things have happened, you might even discover you don't want him anymore and are better off without him. Show him what he's missed out on. Or you could meet someone better. But you won't find that out if you end it now. I can only tell you that whenever something nice happens in my life, I am so very glad I didn't jump. There were beautiful things in your life before. They will be there again. Last edited by Zimtsternchen : 02-20-2005 at 10:41 AM.

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